Learn to Respond, not React

Do you have the patience to wait
till your mud settles and the water is clear?

– Lao Tzu

What’s the difference between reacting and responding?

According to Psychology Today,

“A reaction is instant. It’s driven by the beliefs, biases, and prejudices of the unconscious mind. When you say or do something ‘without thinking’ ,that’s the unconscious mind running the show.

A reaction is based in the moment and doesn’t take into consideration long-term effects of what you do or say. A reaction is survival-oriented and on some level a defense mechanism. It might turn out okay but often a reaction is something you regret later.

A response on the other hand usually comes more slowly. It’s based on information from both the conscious mind and unconscious mind.

A response will be more ‘ecological’, meaning that it takes into consideration the well-being of not only you but those around you. It weighs the long-term effects and stays in line with your core values.”

Experts ask us to take a few deep breath instead of expressing knee-jerking reaction!

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